Supporting Those Who Have Lost A Child During Pregnancy
Families who miscarry a child haven't always been offered the same level of sympathy and comfort as a women who lost a child that's been born. Most miscarriages happen early in the first trimester, so the mom-to-be doesn't look pregnant. That, coupled with the fact that there is no body to bury, causes people to forget that families are actually mourning the very real and very painful loss of a child, not to mention the accompanying guilt that a women who has had miscarriage is likely to feel even though it isn't her fault.
It's no secret that talking to someone about their
loss can be very uncomfortable. And, it can be difficult finding the right words to say. Here are a few suggestions on how to support your loved ones who has suffered the loss of a child during pregnancy.
Statements to avoid saying to someone who has lost a child during pregnancy:
You can always have another child.
At least you didn't know your baby.
There must have been something wrong with your baby.
Be grateful for the children you already have.
God needed another angel. This was His will.
At least you weren't further along.
Time heals all wounds.
You should be over this by now.
It's no secret that talking to someone about their
loss can be very uncomfortable. And, it can be difficult finding the right words to say. Here are a few suggestions on how to support your loved ones who has suffered the loss of a child during pregnancy.
Statements to avoid saying to someone who has lost a child during pregnancy:
You can always have another child.
At least you didn't know your baby.
There must have been something wrong with your baby.
Be grateful for the children you already have.
God needed another angel. This was His will.
At least you weren't further along.
Time heals all wounds.
You should be over this by now.
Helpful statements to use when talking to a friend or family member about their loss
I'm sorry for your loss.
Is there anything I can do for you right now?
If you ever want to talk, I'm here for you."
This is not your fault.
I wish I know what to say but I just don't know what I could possibly
say to make you feel better. I am here for you though.
It's okay to grieve. This is a real loss and you should
take all the time you need to grieve.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Is there anything I can do for you right now?
If you ever want to talk, I'm here for you."
This is not your fault.
I wish I know what to say but I just don't know what I could possibly
say to make you feel better. I am here for you though.
It's okay to grieve. This is a real loss and you should
take all the time you need to grieve.