We are not going to tell you to get over it... We are going to help you get through it.
Don't believe anyone if they say your baby isn't big enough to love, miss or grieve for, they are all our precious Babies big or small!
“It has been said time heals all wounds, I do not agree. The wounds
remain. In time, the mind protecting it’s sanity covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it’s never gone.”
Tears are how our heart speaks when our lips cannot describe how much we've been hurt.
The loss of a child permeates every aspect of your life. Your world becomes turned upside down. Things you thought were important are no longer. Everything you thought was under your control isn’t.
It’s like being dropped deep into a body of water blindfolded at night,
you are alone and in complete silence except for what you hear in your head, you just don’t know which way is up. The fear sets in and you start to
experience psychological and physical symptoms you may have never felt before. Fear turns to panic as you try to make sense of it all, grasping
for help. Your nervous system has been impacted with almost irreversible
damage, trauma, I’ve heard it described. Call it what you will, it doesn’t change the way you feel inside.
After you lose a child, you may no longer recognize the person in the
mirror. You look vaguely familiar in physical features only. The look you see in your own eyes displays so much pain, pain that no one on the
street recognizes and if they do, they haven’t inquired. That would make
them to uncomfortable.
Some people close to you become concerned. They say things like
“you just have to get over this”. In return you ask them “Would you get
over it if your child died?” They stare at you with a blank look, offended that you would even ask such a question. If you have lost a child, you know this isn’t something you get over. Only those that have lost a child can understand the depths in which this pain travels.
Grief is not a disease, it is not a mental illness, it is not depression.
It is, in fact, an expression of love. Grief can only be a disease if love is.
-Dr. Joanne Cacciatore
Don't believe anyone if they say your baby isn't big enough to love, miss or grieve for, they are all our precious Babies big or small!
“It has been said time heals all wounds, I do not agree. The wounds
remain. In time, the mind protecting it’s sanity covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it’s never gone.”
Tears are how our heart speaks when our lips cannot describe how much we've been hurt.
The loss of a child permeates every aspect of your life. Your world becomes turned upside down. Things you thought were important are no longer. Everything you thought was under your control isn’t.
It’s like being dropped deep into a body of water blindfolded at night,
you are alone and in complete silence except for what you hear in your head, you just don’t know which way is up. The fear sets in and you start to
experience psychological and physical symptoms you may have never felt before. Fear turns to panic as you try to make sense of it all, grasping
for help. Your nervous system has been impacted with almost irreversible
damage, trauma, I’ve heard it described. Call it what you will, it doesn’t change the way you feel inside.
After you lose a child, you may no longer recognize the person in the
mirror. You look vaguely familiar in physical features only. The look you see in your own eyes displays so much pain, pain that no one on the
street recognizes and if they do, they haven’t inquired. That would make
them to uncomfortable.
Some people close to you become concerned. They say things like
“you just have to get over this”. In return you ask them “Would you get
over it if your child died?” They stare at you with a blank look, offended that you would even ask such a question. If you have lost a child, you know this isn’t something you get over. Only those that have lost a child can understand the depths in which this pain travels.
Grief is not a disease, it is not a mental illness, it is not depression.
It is, in fact, an expression of love. Grief can only be a disease if love is.
-Dr. Joanne Cacciatore